It’s Bi Visibility Day! A time for bisexuals everywhere to have their say.
For years now I’ve identified as bisexual. I think men are hot, women are sexy and NO I don’t have a preference.
I’ve dated both, fallen in love with both and to me it couldn’t be more natural.
But for some younger bisexuals life is not so easy, they have to deal with comments like: Are you sure you’re not just gay? Maybe you’re just a bit confused, no one is bi their entire lives.
Funny because these comments only ever come from non bisexuals (gay and straight people) who don’t understand what it means to be attracted to people not genders.
For those people I thought I’d take Bi Visibility Day to write up my top ten reasons for why I love being a bisexual man.
I could date anybody.
You know what’s a great way to insure you settle down and don’t die alone? Not turning your nose up at half the human race because of what’s between their legs.
The power is all mine
Ain’t no one playing hard to get when you’re just as likely to flirt with the girls gay best friend as you are her.
It’s not easy and that makes you strong
People really have an issue with bisexuals, but if you can successfully own it, take all the criticism, the sass and still make it work you truly are a kick-ass human being. Go you!
Biphobia is a great BS indicator
If I meet someone who struggles with the concept that you can be attracted to both genders it’s usually a great indicator that the person is thick and that I don’t care to spend a second longer with them.
Often times biphobia is just the tip of the iceberg. If they are open about not liking bisexuals, can you imagine what they DON’T want you to know?
Sexism isn’t in my vocabulary
If there is one thing switching between dating men and women teaches you its to treat people like people. I’m not going to treat a woman any differently to how I would treat a man.
That attitude isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Relationships are easier
This isn’t really something I can explain as much as you have to experience it.
But when you’re with someone and they know that it has nothing to do with what’s between their legs things are just different, for the better.
I guess because you’ve looked past the physical and in to the personality the bond is just stronger. Unlike most people I’m not looking for someone to fill the role of ‘the man’ in my life or ‘the Missus’.
Write your own rules
The bisexual path is infamously less traveled. We don’t have a stereotype of what a bisexual is.
That gives us the luxury of making our own rules and to define what a bisexual is for ourselves.
You talk sense
The truth is people may have their backwards opinions on bisexuality but once you actually explain it to them properly the majority of people will understand.
Changing minds and widening people’s understanding of the world is a great privilege.
We are the future
Call it bintuition but I do feel that with our quest for equality and the LGBT movement that future generations will loose this obsession with gender and date people for their personality not genitals.
I get to live in the grey
I can’t imagine how it must feel to see the world so black and white. Gay or straight, single or married.
If there is one thing I’ve learnt it’s that the world doesn’t fit neatly into broad labels.