I am in no doubt about the fact that the mother of the bride has an important role to play in the lead up to getting hitched.
A woman’s unique bond with her daughter makes her the ideal straight-talking critic to take along to bridal boutiques, advise on a million options, not to mention counsel over family worries, general nerves and tricky decisions.
But why are so many brides-to-be regressing to their childhood selves and relinquishing complete control of their special day to their mums?
It’s not just retro, it’s disturbing. And surely it’s the perfect path for laying foundations of future in-law tension?
Weddings are not just for women. They’re not all about frilly girlie stuff where mum knows best.
This is 2017 and you and your partner need to be on the same page when it comes to celebrating your relationship.
Yes, absolutely, help is a must and mothers can and should be a huge help if the bride requires.
But so often this assistance crosses the line and you hear, ‘oh my mum’s doing it all,’ or ‘the flowers are all mum’s idea, I’m not bothered.’ And worst of all, ‘you can’t stop her.’
And OK, parents may have made generous financial contributions, and your luck is definitely in if that’s the case, but is that on condition they take over every detail?
Really? Is that how you want your marriage to begin?
Scores of independent career women are missing out on this key part of their wedding.
It’s the day you get to have your closest circle watch you tie the knot with the one, in a location of your choice, while in your glad rags.
Do you really want your mum to create the menu? To select the venue? To timetable proceedings? And maybe even pick your wedding dress?
Unless she’s actually a professional wedding planner, it’s a sorry state of affairs when you are too stressed/busy to take the helm.
Momager alert indeed.